January might start with fireworks and resolutions, but for many couples, it’s also a time of difficult decisions. Every year, family law teams report a spike in the number of divorce filings once the festive season ends, a trend so infamous that the first Monday of the year has been dubbed “Divorce day”, and January as a whole the “divorce month”.
Let’s explore what’s behind this rise, and what to do if you’re considering separation at the start of the year.
Why do divorce enquiries increase in January?
Several family law firms have reported an annual spike in divorce filings and searches in January. There are a few reasons this happens:
The festive period puts pressure on relationships
For some couples, Christmas brings joy and reconnection. For others, it shines a spotlight on growing distance. The festive season and holiday spending can intensify issues, especially when expectations are high, but reality doesn’t match. More time at home, financial pressure, and family dynamics all add fuel to the fire.
Couples wait until January
It’s common for couples to delay big decisions until the New Year. Many wait out of consideration for children or family through the festivities. Others hope the Christmas period might rekindle a lost connection.
This doesn’t mean the decision is sudden; many couples have been navigating challenges for months, but combined with the other reasons, January is often when things come to a head.
January signals a fresh start
The New Year brings a psychological longing for reflection, change, and growth. For some, that means finally starting divorce proceedings or opening up about their situation. It’s a way to move forward with purpose and control.
How can I protect my relationship if I’m worried about holiday pressure?
This time of year can be incredibly intense – emotionally, financially, and practically – but it doesn’t have to end in separation. Here are some ways to approach things thoughtfully:
Prioritise communication and shared expectations
Don’t wait until there’s tension to talk. Have an honest conversation about how you’re both feeling, what you’d like from the festive period, and what matters most to you both.
Agree on boundaries around spending, social plans, and time with extended family. Understanding your partner’s priorities and where they are mentally can help avoid resentment or surprise, and ensures you both feel supported, not strained.
Make space for rest
The holidays often come with to-do lists, travel, obligations, and an influx of extended family dynamics. If you’re already feeling stretched, carving out rest, even if just for an hour here and there, can prevent burnout and conflict.
Don’t ignore red flags
If something feels more serious than seasonal stress, don’t brush it aside. Patterns of emotional disconnection, repeated arguments, or feeling dismissed or unsafe are worth exploring. Counselling (individually or together) can help create space for honest conversations.
Reaching out for guidance doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Having someone listen objectively can give you the clarity you need.
I’ve made the decision to divorce. Where do I start?
Even when you’re sure, divorce can feel overwhelming. These steps can help you feel more prepared, emotionally and practically:
- Talk to someone you trust, be it a friend, family member, therapist, or all three. You don’t need to have it all figured out to start talking.
- Get your documents in order and gather key information: bank accounts, mortgage details, savings, pensions, or debts. Having this to hand will save time and stress down the line.
- Think about what matters most. Children, property, emotional wellbeing, freedom; what are your priorities if you separate? Knowing your values will help guide you through this time.
- Speak to a solicitor early, even if you’re undecided. Legal advice helps you understand your rights and the possible outcomes. You’re not committing to anything; you’re just making sure whatever decision you make is an informed one.
What does starting divorce proceedings involve?
Since April 2022, there’s only one ground for divorce in England and Wales: the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. Either or both of you can submit a statement confirming the relationship has ended, and you don’t need to prove fault.
In most situations, we’d always recommend letting your partner know of your intentions sooner rather than later. Clear communication through this time will improve your chances of having an amicable separation, which is especially important if dependents are involved.
FAQs
How much does a divorce cost?
There’s a standard court fee of £612. Solicitor fees vary with complexity; some offer fixed-fee packages for straightforward divorces.
How long does it take?
The legal process for divorce is around six months. Keep in mind however that organising financial arrangements or child contact can take longer, especially if there’s disagreement.
Do I have to go to court?
Most divorces are resolved without court intervention, unless there are serious disputes.
Can I apply for divorce online?
You can apply for divorce online via the Gov.uk divorce portal. But if there are finances, children, or property involved, it’s wise to get legal advice first.
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